Before taking my first break I was listed as one of the top 10 escorts on a reputable escorting website & my fees were at the highest they've ever been. I was doing very well! At around this time my little sister had my nephew & they moved in with me. She was incredibly young & unprepared for motherhood so I took it upon myself to help her out & this coincided with my first break. This lasted for maybe 6 months or more & by the end of this time I was desperate to get back to work. I missed the excitement & thrill of London & escorting. I also missed the financial stability & freedom that came with it.
I planned my return to the agency. I carried on exactly where I left off, however things seemed to have changed. I had lost a lot of my regular clients, as they understandably moved on whilst I was away. Not only that but the agency had changed a little & all bookings were being arranged by a receptionist rather than the agency owner. I was still getting plenty of work, however it didn't feel quite the same.
Unfortunately, this return didn't last all that long. Maybe 6 months to a year. Again, I eventually burnt out & took another break. This cycle happened a few times. The desire for some 'me' time was stronger than ever. I enrolled on an access course & decided to try offering longer bookings in London & shorter bookings more locally. This is when things really changed.
I met a lovely older client (J) that was in a miserable situation at home & we came up with an 'arrangement' that suited us both. We saw each other a few times a week for around 9 months. Things were great. I was able to finish my course with ease. The arrangement gave me financial stability & it was nice to spend time with one person on a regular basis. We had some trips away, went out to eat at some lovely restaurants. And then things began to get more complicated. Emotions got in the way of the 'arrangement'. J wanted to see more & more of me & whilst, to begin with, I was happy to do so (again, maybe a little silly of me) I began to feel that he was getting an awful lot more out the arrangement than I was. It got to the point where I was having to make excuses why I couldn't see him more often or why I wasn't able to stay longer then agreed. Maybe I should have just been honest with him from the start, but I am not confrontational & hate hurting people's feelings. Anyway, it all came to a head & we fell out. We did sort things out but agreed that some distance was needed & so we now only see each other when it's mutually convenient & as a normal booking. This has worked for the last 3 years so that's something.
At this point, I was again, looking forward to returning to London. It had been quite a while. Probably the longest I'd been out of London for actually. I returned to the same agency & this time things had changed a little too much. It was another receptionist now arranging the bookings & for some reason I wasn't getting even half the bookings I was before. Maybe it was because I'd been out of London for so long. Maybe it was because I was a little older. Maybe it's because I decided that there were some things I was no longer comfortable with doing. Anyway, I wasn't happy with how things were going & decided to try working independently. I'd done it before in Hampshire & I'd been in in the industry long enough to know how it works & the protocols. I went about setting up my own website, which took some time I can tell you. I was not very familiar with website garble or SEO/content writing but soon figured out. I placed some advertisements with a few different websites, bought myself a cheap second phone & off I went. I was working on my terms. I could decide when I worked, who I saw, what fees I charged & had more control over my schedule. It was brilliant. I don't know why I didn't do it sooner to be honest. Probably because I was worried I wasn't up to the task. Or that I became so comfortable with relying on the agency, I didn't need to. This is another crucial turning point in my career. I took a long, hard look at what I wanted to achieve & really worked on making it happen. Things were going very well & I was the happiest I'd been in a long time.
As most of you know from previous blogs, last year was pretty horrendous for me & for work. I took a few months off & now back to starting all over. I have big plans, big goals & this time I am more knowledgeable, experienced & comfortable with what I'm doing. I'm not as young as I was. I may not be quite as slim as I was. And I certainly don't offer all the services I once did. But I do have a natural ability to connect with gentlemen & entertain them. I've figured out a good balance between work & life. And I'm happy. I'm also fortunate enough to have made a handful of wonderful new friends (when I say new, I mean within the last year or so) that I get to spend longer amounts of time with. Which is exactly the way I like it.
I've been to some beautiful places, seen some wonderful shows & also have a handful of people to listen to me when I need to bounce ideas around. I have support & friendship & that's what I love. So to you, I say thank you. You're truly wonderful! I wonder how many people can say that they are truly happy and content with their career? I am one of this lucky individuals.
Oh & I forgot to mention, I'm studying for my future. I've found a way of studying that suits my lifestyle & commitments & maybe this will be part of my exit strategy. After all, all escorts need an exit strategy right?! (An idea for a separate blog post) Anyway, that's pretty much my story of how I got into this & the ups & downs between then & now.
I'm thinking of possibly writing a few more blog posts about 'the weird & wonderful experiences' I've had. Maybe one of 'what it takes to be an escort'. And 'good etiquette rules'. What do you think? Worth writing??
Until next time... Abigail.xxx end of AOLMsgPart_1_3d15ff07-80ce-4a77-82b5-a3f160234e13